|the Portis family|
Years ago, I ate Japanese food with a beautiful blonde adoptive mom and two of her sons: one from China with a heart defect, one from the U.S. with Down’s Syndrome. (She’d adopted more than these.) I wanted her expert advice before we dipped our toes into the vast ocean of adoption.
There’s no documenting the impact this one lunch had on me. She poured out more wisdom than I could swallow in one sitting. I’m still working through some of it. Today, I want to focus on just one sentence… one thing she said as we walked out of the restaurant doors.
“You should start a blog.”
I remember shaking my head. Blogs were for narcissists.
But she rattled off a dozen blessings she’d gained from blogging. So I thought about it.
Three years and four days ago, I started this blog. Amelia didn’t exist, and Caroline looked like this:
Today, my girls look like this. And the blessings from blogging multiply still.
- Your blog becomes a record of God’s faithfulness to you over the years.
- By writing, you verbalize thoughts you didn’t realize you had, and come to invaluable realizations.
- The desire to post often about God forces you to take notice of His work in your life. You’re trying to minister to others, but you get the most from it. Before long, you are much more aware of how personal and active He is towards you.
- You gain the courage to live life outside the status quo. Finding “normal” Christians attempting (though poorly) to give all to Christ in a way similar to your own callings is R A R E. What courage it brings me to see the trendy mom in Atlanta willing to do the not-so-cool through homeschooling, simply because she thinks God called her to. How refreshing for me to see the blonde mom of black children struggling with racial issues in California… so it’s not just the Deep South? Whatever “weird” God calls me to, I find online that I’m not so unique. Which leads me to #5.
- You feel less isolated. I’ve learned through blogging and reading blogs that any shadow of emotion passing by is not unique to me. The human experience is similar across the board, regardless of diverse circumstances. The place we connect is where we discover identical thoughts, fears, hopes.
- You are ministered to by others. (Those who comment on your blog, and whose blogs you read.)
- You have an amazing opportunity to show others God’s goodness. Never stop proclaiming who Jesus is!
- You meet friends. Don’t laugh. Through blogging, I met the other mothers of children in Amelia’s orphanage, and countless others I later met in real life and adore!
- You find opportunities. Acquaintances who are struggling sometimes email me, opening their worst hurts wide open to me. It’s a chance to encourage, and it comes through being vulnerable online. “Blog friends” will inform you of amazing, uplifting conferences, and you’ll room together! Through blogging, many become guest-posters on better known blogs, or authors in their own right.
- You hone in a skill. Photography bloggers have better pictures now than when they began blogging. Writers think up more interesting topics, and know more about how to glorify God with words. Silly bloggers get funnier. Plain old hobby bloggers learn about design, online community, and the value — yes, there is value — of social networking.
- You own who you are. Here’s an example… the first time I felt open to special needs adoption, (especially ones with stigma,) I wouldn’t speak it out loud. What would friends and family think? But eventually, I was willing to write all I feared to speak on my anonymous-feeling little blog. (Of course, most close friends and family read it.) By now, I’ll openly express my dreams of a special need adoption someday, or my curiosity about homeschool, etc.
- Blogging is simply fun.