Thursday, August 23, 2012

Us on TV - Thank God for Good Editing

Thank God for good editing. Seriously.

The local news here aired a story about our adoption agency.  Several families were part of the shoot, including ours.  The news anchor plopped us on a couch, directed the girls to our laps, aimed the cameras, and...

the girls could not sit still.
They couldn't stop touching the microphone hooked to me.
And I couldn't think straight because of it.
They turned the cameras off and rearranged us.
It didn't help.
I stammered and stuttered and pulled Caroline's dress down repeatedly.

She really needed her dress pulled down.


She kept squirming, legs wide open, so that she flashed the camera repeatedly! 

Most of this was edited out.
Most of my distracted talk was cut, as well.
Like I said, thank God for good editing.

In the closing scene of the clip that aired, they had to censor Caroline's little flashing undies!  Oh mercy.  My four year old child has been censored on television.  I was cracking up laughing when I saw that.   Good grief.

All in all, the clip turned out pretty well. The other families rocked it.  Lifeline's social worker rocked it.  The editing was magic.  And our family provided some comedic relief.

(Okay, okay, if you're only watching to laugh at Caroline's gaff, skip to the 1:54 mark.)

Of course, after this story aired, people began posting some negative comments on the WKRG Facebook link.  (There were also supportive comments, each of which I "liked" at the speed of light!)  I forget many people bristle at international adoption, seeing it as a threat to domestic adoption.  Here are a few excerpts:

WHY?WHY go out side the USA when so many in our own Country needs Adopting out

we need to think about those in the USA first!

Take care of home first and foremost.

Why not adopt the Children of the Appalachia Mountains first and foremost!!! We have a friggin 3rd World in our own backyard, that 90% of Americans seem to forget or haven't become aware of the problem. I would love it if people who had the
 money could adopt those kids first and be Mentor Parents who help pull those who want to have a better life out of there. The average age of giving birth is 12 Years Old...the youngest age someone can become a Grandparent is 25 Years Old!!!! It does happen. Please give these kids a 2nd chance. We need to take care of our own people first, and become fully self-sufficient nation before helping others. 

Too many in the great ole USA to be going outside to adopt

One comment called international adoption a "tragedy".  I addressed this specifically in my reply, and the tragedy comment disappeared. That helped my heart.

I'm only giving you the negative excerpts so you can get your blood pressure up like I did.
Misery loves company.
Muah ha ha ha.

Perhaps soon I'll do a post about the misconceptions represented by some of the comments I saw.  There is so much faulty information.  I truly believe that as international adoption grows, so will domestic... and vice versa.  These two paths are not in competition. I know so many families who first adopted internationally, then later adopted domestically, or the reverse.  Adoption inspires more adoption, often within the same family. 

It's a lot to think about.
One thing is certain...
We've got to teach Caroline to keep her dress down.


Cristy said...

Adoptions do inspire more adoptions, and praise the Lord for that. When I hear the negative on international adoption, I just praise God for allowing transformation to happen in my life. I'm thankful for the opportunity to testify what God has called our family to do. It's ok when people say their ugliness because I will be obedient to God's call to defend the orphan...ALL orphans. Blessed to defend my faith, and I'm blessed to hear others like you speak truth to the world. Loved the interviews!

Gisela said...

Hello there and thank you for your post. I am too an adoptive Mother a a precious little boy from Guatemala and yes, there are those who complain about international adoptions, etc, etc...but I find peace in thinking that everyone is entitled to their opinion and that, as you said, adoption does inspire more adoption, and Praise the Lord for that! Like I tell my son, "we are all adopted into the family of God, even Jesus was adopted by Joseph." Adoption, I believe, is a very important relationship in the heart of the Great God that we serve and I feel honored that He called a sinner like me, to adopt. Praise the Lord, for His love endures forever! thanks for your post and blessings to you always. I'm visiting from Grace Alone link up.

Christen Price said...

Ha, love this! I bristeled at some of those comments too! Why do people think its a competition? People should adopt themselves before they begin slamming families and agencies that choose international adoption. Good grief! So glad you are getting to share your journey in Mobile :)

Denise said...

Bless you for your post.

Laura Rowe [twirl] said...

Rachel- I got a negative comment on Apartment Therapy about some photos of V's birthday party and it had me all twisted out of sorts- any kind of criticism hurts so I can only imagine the fury you felt at these! So sad! I think the Lord lays international adoption on some hearts the way he lays domestic on others. It's like people who make it their life's work to protect whales while I have no passion for sealife- we're all here to do something different, and we each have our own perfect part to play. Ignore those naysayers :)

RACHEL said...

Besides loving your sweet comment Laura... you were on Apartment Therapy!? I want to see footage!! Had so much fun with you yesterday!!!

Mary Beth said...

She is going to *love* this when she gets older! I don't really understand this argument over domestic/international adoption. All children are valued and created by God and deserving of a loving home. Anytime a child is loved and cared for by a family is a *win*!

Mindy @ New Equus - A New Creation said...

This is awesome! And you are right...usually adopters adopt again, and again. A child, is a child, is a child. God leads us in the path He wants for a purpose. Bless you for taking one of His children who needed a family into your home. :)

CaptainConundrum said...

Love it! Hubby and I have discussed adoption as something we definitely want to do someday when we're a little more financially stable. I'm looking forward to it-- meanwhile just trying to learn how to be a mommy to my own poor child who had no choice but to be mine! LOL. Hopping over from Rachel Anne's blog, and I'm doing a Girlcott on mine today if you'd like to stop by! You might enjoy it!

thenewbec said...

Love it!

You can't please everyone. So please God and be confident in that. The tragedy is that people value any human over another. God calls people to different things, period. He uses each of us for his glory. I'm so glad you have obeyed God on your calling :-)

We adopted domestically, and we are a trans-racial family. You know, we have been pleasantly surprised that most of our "feedback" from others has been positive. But the most regular "negative" feedback we get is when they ask where our son is from, and we tell them "Nashville". And they are like "I know you got him IN Nashville, but where was he born?" And I still say "NASHVILLE". lol. And then they just don't know what to think... they aren't necessarily "against" it, but they have to process it. (So they kind of are uncomfortable with it, they just weren't aware that they were). In my experience a greater number of people are more ok with trans-racial adoption from another country, but when trans-racial adoption occurs from a white family domestically, some want want to know why we "didn't just get a white child". *rolling my eyes*

We think we are done with expanding our family, but are open to it if God were to call us to it in the future. At that point I think we would adopt domestically again, an older child. (Because that's where God led our hearts... not because it's "better".)

Nice to "meet" you! visiting from company girls.

Michelle said...

I have a friend who adopted both internationally and locally. One chinese. One First Nations Canadian (Indian). I think anyone who is willing to open their home to any child is blessed.

PS when you find out how to keep little girls' skirts down, could you let me know. My 9 year old really still needs guidance on that one.

Rachel Anne said...

Loved it!! I missed the "whoopsie" moment the first time around and had to rewind to see it! Thank you for sharing your story and your is so awesome to see how God puts families together in such a beautiful way. I pray big blessings on you as you continue to share and impact others.

Michy ( said...

Blessings for the spirit of adoption....I often struggle w/media and don't always feel comfortable with what I would want shown...I'm glad you found such ways to learn through this. Thanks for linking up!