Whenever I am tempted to feel sorry for myself regarding our adoption wait, I am humbled by the stories of those who have had fertility struggles. Waiting three, four, five years to even know the first thing about your child sounds remarkably painful… at least Brad and I know Amelia’s sweet face, and know that there will be a happy ending.
One particular couple had been dealing with infertility for a long time already when our Caroline was born. I was amazed at how they welcomed our little girl into the world without jealousy or bitterness. They even stood outside of our labor room door and waited for her birth.
One night in April of 2009, God placed this couple on my heart very heavily – so heavily, in fact, that as I prayed for them, I felt that surely God would bring them their baby soon, and so I wrote them a letter telling them so. I prayed over the letter as I wrote it. Within the month, they conceived and now have a beautiful baby girl.
This story just came around full circle.
On Tuesday, these friends came to our house with their baby, and a letter. They knew how I had been struggling this week with the adoption wait, and how I had cried.
The letter was in my friend April’s handwriting. Her letter said her heart was broken for our wait. It talked about God’s sweet purposes in trials, and about Biblical themes of waiting for your children, and about her faith that we would be united with Amelia at the perfect time.
And then my friend April told me something amazing.
The letter was the same one I had written her in April 2009. She had only changed the names. She had given me back the exact words of encouragement that I had handed to her during her wait.
April’s little girl is very close to Amelia’s age. They would have been conceived only a couple of months apart. As the Holy Spirit urged me to write those words in 2009, He had to be smiling to know that the letter would not only be to April, but to me as well. He had to be smiling to know that within months, He would create both her baby girl and mine.
God’s timing is amazing. His ways are sweet and perfect. Thank you, God, for such a precious reminder of Your loving control over the bringing of children into our families.