When I was pregnant, I recieved daily emails that told me what to expect with my body, the baby’s development, my emotions, etc. I gravitated towards other pregnant women who could help me filter thoughts & concerns. After Caroline was born, I had books and moms who could help me manage my every expectation.
We need the same thing with adoption! We need friends who let us know that our emotions are normal, and what to expect in the legal system, and how to handle attachment and bonding after your child is home.
My friend Joy gave me this advice when I first met her, & I can’t tell you how amazing it has been following it. (Better yet, she has helped me make connections, which I hope to now be able to do for others.)
If you’ve already adopted, PLEASE seek out and reach out to those starting the process in the same way that Joy did for me! It makes a difference! My best advice for those adopting for the first time? Find an adoption community!!!