In every instance, they have had pure motives. However, I do want people to understand that our coming baby is 100% OUR OWN child. Like Caroline, God always planned this second baby to be ours, even before we knew it. Most importantly, I don’t want our children to grow up hearing that Caroline is “our own,” while this next baby is, by default, something contrary to that. While outsiders mean nothing by the wording, it may have significant meaning to our children. I never want either one of them to doubt for a second that God has always loved them and had a perfect plan for them. Our family structure is just one beautiful part of that plan.
For most people, the phrase “children of your own” is a perfectly innocent way to describe biological children. People will ask me, “do you want more children of your own after you adopt?” They are simply trying to differentiate between children brought to us through pregnancy versus children brought to us through adoption.